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Monday, 19 September 2005

Sigh...why are we, as women, so catty? Haven't we all learned by now that we aren't going to end up alone (unless we want to) no matter how much other women are thinner, prettier, funnier, smarter than us? Of course we haven't. Ask yourself this, who taught us to believe that men will always want what's better, and they are trained to stray, even if only with their eyes? Was it Dr.Phil, or Sally Jesse Raphael? History lessons of Henry VIII, the acceptance of polygamy in certain religions (and cults), Girls Gone Wild videos, or watching eighteen seasons of The Real World? Maybe it's us (lightbulb). Maybe they get tired of us bitching and complaining about how we look, comparing ourselves to other women, and pointing out other girls' flaws and assets. We all have things we love and hate about ourselves, no matter what size or how attractive we are. I work very closely with a group of women, and I'm always shocked at how the thin, beautiful, mother of a twelve year old that doesn't look a day over twenty five reveals the things she hates about her body. Her body image isn't any better than mine in all my amazon, "her face is really pretty", "she'd make a great plus-size model" glory. Confession: on my path downwards to self-loathing a couple of years ago, I actually used to get angry when I'd see a moderately attractive guy out with a girl that was in no way attractive, drab hair, acne, glasses, but smaller than a size six. "He's only with her because of her body." What?! What was wrong with me that I could forget about love, sense of humor, compassion, kindness, spontanaeity as a reason for pairing up? Why was I so angry that I had been given a beautiful face, but the kind of body that *wink* white boys just don't go for? I guess what I'm trying to say here is, women of the world, large and small, I know we're all feeling the same thing, and just try to remember what Cosmo's been telling us for years: the number one thing men find attractive in women is confidence. God, I hate admitting that Cosmo's right.

posted by: Cannonball14 at 14:04 | link | comments (2) |
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Comments:

#1 27 September 2005 - 15:45

Yup. Confidence is everything. It's sexy. That is the ONLY time Cosmo has ever been right.

alohalani

#2 29 September 2005 - 13:54

Ah, yes, the "I'm so much prettier/smarter/funnier/sexier than she is, but she has a better body, so that why he's with her" syndrome. We've all been there. We've all fallen victim to it; it's very easy to succumb to that way of thinking. But...if he is with her only because of her body, we don't want to be with someone like that anyway. Anyway...confidence is good. That is all. :-)